The Mystery of the Silent Bus

 

The Mystery of the Silent Bus



There are things they do not tell you when you move to Finland. They will tell you about the cold as if you won’t or don’t feel it yourself, they will talk about the darkness as if it doesn’t swallow you whole, and they will even tell you like warning you about the language as if your tongue won’t twist itself into unimaginable shapes trying to say “Hyvää päivää”. But there is no one absolutely when I mean no one warns you about the eerie, almost sacred silence of the Finnish bus.

I remember my first time stepping onto a bus in Finland. I greeted the driver with my best foreigner’s enthusiasm, a warm “hyvää huomenta!” which means good morning; thinking I was doing the right thing. The driver looked at me as if I had just confessed to a crime. He barely nodded, his face betraying no emotion, and I quickly shuffled away, feeling like I had broken some ancient Nordic code.

Then, I noticed it. Silence. Complete, unbroken, profound silence.

The kind of silence that makes you hear your own breathing, your own heartbeat, your own thoughts screaming, “Why is nobody talking?!” I kept wondering why it is so quiet.

Coming from a culture where buses are moving marketplaces where hawkers, preachers, gossipers, and self-appointed DJs create a symphony of everyday life, the silence felt like an unnatural forcefield. I clutched my phone tightly, afraid that even the sound of a message notification would make me the villain of the entire vehicle.

As I sat down, I glanced around at my fellow passengers. Each person was in their own world, gazing out the window, plugged into their headphones, or simply staring ahead in quiet contemplation. No side conversations, no sudden outbursts, not even a polite clearing of the throat. Even friends who boarded together would exchange a nod and then fall into the unspoken rule of silence. It was as if talking on a bus was a crime punishable by the law.

At one point, my phone rang. I felt my body start to freeze. The heads turned, ever so slightly. The side-eyes were discreet, but they carried weight. I scrambled to silence the phone, fumbling like I was defusing a bomb; the phone call was left unanswered. My heartbeat took longer than usual to return to its usual rhythm. I had committed the ultimate sin.

Over time, I learned the rules of the silent bus. I became fluent in the art of non-verbal communication eye contact means nothing, a small nod is a grand gesture, and sitting next to someone when there are other empty seats is a declaration of war. I mastered the delicate balance of silence, the unwritten agreement that we would all exist together but separately, until our destinations pulled us apart.

 

Now, I find the silent bus comforting. It is a moment of peace in an otherwise chaotic world. It is an unwritten contract of respect. But every now and then, the old me resurfaces the one who wants to chat, to laugh, to share a random observation with a stranger. I imagine what would happen if I started a conversation, if I just turned to the person next to me and said, “Nice weather today, huh?”

But then, I remember. This is Finland. And the bus must remain silent.

I once witnessed an exception to the rule. A small child, too young to understand the sacredness of the silence, began singing softly to themselves. Their mother, looking mildly alarmed, gently hushed them. But for a moment, the bus was filled with an almost magical sound a child’s voice, innocent and unfiltered, daring to break the norm. Some passengers smiled to themselves, others pretended not to notice. And then, as quickly as it had come, the silence returned, swallowing the moment whole.

It made me wonder: is the silence really a rule, or just a habit so deeply embedded in daily life that few dare to question it? Perhaps, one day, someone will dare to start a conversation, and the world will not end. But until then, we sit in our quiet agreement, our unspoken bond of stillness, together yet far apart.

Life & Layers with Uyai

Hi, I’m Uyai! A creative soul with a passion for caregiving, beauty, and storytelling. From braiding unique protective hairstyles to sharing my experiences of life in Finland and Europe through my blog and newspaper column, I love blending culture, humor, and insights. I also run a nonprofit organization in my home country, helping kids learn valuable skills. Join me on this journey of discovery, creativity, and making a difference!

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